You may experience roadblocks. Some common ones are listed below.

This map is the guide that I have developed for myself. Because in my capacity of therapist I have offered it to several thousand clients with varying degrees of success, I now offer it to you. It is crucial that you adapt it to fit who you are. In other words, you need to make your own map. What I present is simply a guide to making your map. Remember, it is the "menu", not the "meal." As you make your own map, you will begin feasting on your meal.

• Are you evaluating your own journey or your partner's?
• Are you expecting, seeking, demanding that your partner meet an inner need of your own that only you can meet? i.e.. are you struggling with the question "Am I worthy/" this question is a spiritual question for which you need to seek a spiritual, not a relational solution.
• Are you demanding ( even politely) that your partner change or accept aspects of yourself that are not welcome? Which crap table are you at?
• Are you reaching out to your partner or waiting for Godot?

Need help finding a solution to issues? Try the the following exercises.