Love Tokens

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Introduction

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The purpose of this exercise is to lean what "love" means to your partner.

On a blank piece of paper, jot down in point form any activities that you can engage in that you think would be interpreted as "loving" by your partner. An activity can include a verbal statement as well as some other more obvious type of behaviour or action.

After you have at least 25-30, take a second piece of paper and write them down in what you believe is the most likely to the least likely to be interpreted by your partner as "loving." When you write them down this second time, expand the description of the activities a little so that your partner will not need to guess what you mean.

Now give the list to your partner. Ask him/her to check the activities that would be interpreted as loving and to cross off those that would not be so interpreted.

Finally, cut the list up into separate pieces of paper for each activity that is checked(not crossed off). Place each activity that you are actually willing to complete in a jar. Over the next few weeks, at least once a week, invite your partner to take a piece of paper out of the jar and request the activity from you.

Through discussion, you may find other activities that you can place in the jar. Some couples achieve great success, and fun as well, by keeping this activity going all the time. Incidentally, for those couples, there is a jar for both partners. They take turns.